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U.S. conservatives always talk about creating jobs but get SO MAD whenever anyone mentions banning prison labor like imagine the insane ammout of jobs that would be created literally overnight if companies in your country had to actually employ people instead of using slave labor from people that got caught with weed 10 years ago.
You know what I hate about toxic heterosexual culture? The way others try and force it on people.
Like, heterosexuals are so used to it that they just….do that, to other couples, usually younger ones.
My partner and I are read as straight as treated as some sort of willing participants in this.
Like the other night, after dinner at family’s house I started collecting dishes to wash them, because I’m at someone’s house and that is how I was raised.
Now, boyfriend knows I’m allergic to dishsoap so he comes up and insists on doing it for me, I’m grateful and pick up a towel to dry the dishes. It was a nice moment actually, he’s seen me break out in rashes and itchy awful hive things that stick around for weeks.
But to the older heterosexual couples it became fodder for how I “owned” him, he was whipped and down trodden etc. When I said, meekly (I was a little taken aback by the “haha you volunteer to do the dishes and then make him do it” when I hadn’t even volunteered, I was just quietly collecting dishes and starting the process) said that he had insisted, the joke became about how he probably vaguely suggested and I pounced on it or that he would be in “big trouble” if he didn’t suggest it.
I didn’t bother saying I was allergic to dishsoap, I’ve been saying that since I was 10 and no one believed me, I could already had the jokes they would make about the “allergy”, so I just shut up and kept wiping dishes and putting them away.
But this isn’t new, my last relationship was also previously read as cis/het and it was always like, if I asked my partner to do anything for me it was met with “see if you can get your balls out of her purse while you’re at it”.
Like if the hets wanna have this culture, fine, do you. If you want to act like any kindness or request is emasculating servitude and that women are harpies, whatever. But don’t try and push your miserable dynamics onto everyone else.
I look forward to a cultural shift when it comes to this. The amount of times I’ve had to tell older women that I like hanging out with my husband only to see their shock is
sad
I have to deal with toxic masculinity Every. Fucking. Day. because apparently I can’t help or do anything for my wife without a million questions to see if I’m whipped. Like why would marry someone and not lift a finger for them
This. My boyfriend is very helpful and does his share of chores, and often more depending on my mobility. His care, kindness and consideration is because we love each other, his desire to do the dishes was not out of fear, but out of love because he doesn’t like seeing me with blisters on my fingers.
The kindness and respect that couples show to each other should not be subject to mockery just because it looks unfamiliar.
the reason i know without a shadow of a doubt that hallmark christmas movies are entirely unrealistic is because if they were real then by now taylor swift would have gone to visit her childhood home, found out that the christmas tree farm was going under, organized a charity concert to save it, and dumped joe alwyn in favor of whatever shlub currently owns it, who would probably end up being her childhood crush who inspired her to write love story
